I always said when I was younger that I would allow my kid to have co-ed sleepovers. I never understood my parents not letting me have my guy friends sleep over, especially if it was a big group of us. It just never made sense. Yes, I understood they were worried that we would have sex, but seriously . . . we weren't even at that stage. So, being the true kid/teen that I was, I swore things would be different.
Then, I had my own kid. And I swore I would never let him have co-ed sleepovers. Are you kidding me? These little hussies today are way more wild than I ever was. Then, he had his first co-ed sleepover . . . he was 5 or 6. Ok, at that age, parents are on constant alert to make sure they don't get hurt. No big deal. And then he was 7, then 8, then 9 or 10, then puberty hits. All of a sudden, we're talking hormones. But guess what? The Boy and his friends are a lot smarter than my friends and I were. They don't want to have sex . . . at least not with each other. So, I allow it.
Then there is the fact that my son is gay. He knew from a very young age that he wasn't interested in girls. It hasn't been a problem . . . yet. His two best male friends sleep over all the time and he sleeps over there too. One of the boys is gay and the other . . . well, we'll see. But, they aren't into each other, so no problems.
My concern now . . . what happens when the Boy has a boyfriend and wants the boyfriend to sleep over? Shit!!! I don't want to be "that mom" that says no, because he's your boyfriend. On the other hand, I don't want to convey the idea that they can get their groove on in my house. So, I guess, I'll cross that bridge when I come to it and have a serious talk with him when it happens.
Anyway, I guess I don't mind the co-ed sleepovers because these kids have all grown up together and are like big puppies. In fact, when they all crash, it's like a big old puppy pile. Nothing sexual, just they all end up in the same spot, fully clothed and sleeping hard.
Ah youth. . .I envy them sometimes. To be so free and young. They seriously have a good thing going on.
Anyway. Until next time, much peace and love.