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Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Happy or Right?

I saw this link on Facebook recently, called "Congratulations You're Getting A Divorce."  I started laughing because people are always unsure as to what to say when you tell them you are divorcing or divorced.  My big one was when I changed my name and people thought I got married.  Still don't get that, since they knew I was married already, but whatever.  They always say, "I'm so sorry."  And I say, "Don't be; I'm not."

Here's the deal. I'm not happy that my marriage failed, but . . . I was even more unhappy being married.  It happens.  There were multiple issues, wrongs on the part of both parties, and just not enough "give a shit" to keep going on.  So, the blog talks about being happy or being right.

This is so damn true. Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? That's the one I had to get through my thick skull . . . I wanted both. Now that it's all said and done, I'm happy to be happy. There were a bunch of bumps and bruises along the way, but I've made it to the other side. Congratulations to me.  To read the blog, click here

It's really well-written and opened my eyes to another ah ha moment.  It's not just the divorce, happy or right, but it's all the stuff I wrote about recently, constantly fighting for every little thing.  It wasn't fighting for anything real, but fighting to be right.  Now, I'm not saying don't fight for things if you need to and some things are definitely worth it . . . even for the principle of the matter . . . but check your priorities and see if it's just to be right or not.

Until next time, much peace and love.

4 comments:

  1. Thanks for the link! I'm glad it resonanted. I fought for years to save my marriage. But you can't fight for peace and expect to win.

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    1. Thank you. ..it was great. I wish I had learned it sooner.

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  2. I'm just glad you're able to work though it now. :)

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    1. Thanks, Mama. Me too. :)

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