My son's sperm donors is amazing . . .ly stupid! He is missing out completely on his son's life. He only contacts him when he feels like it and that is rare . . . maybe once a month if that.
For the Boy's 15th birthday, he didn't call until late in the evening and then made vague plans about picking in up to go to his place on the next weekend. And his birthday present? A pack of cigarettes!
He picked him up yesterday and took him to lunch . . . saw him a total of about an hour and 45 minutes. Amazing!
I just don't get how someone can be so selfish to not pay attention to his only child (well, only child that he has any access to, but that's another story). He always complained that his parents played favorites with his sister and they did to an extent, but several years ago, that turned around and he got a lot closer to his parents. Today, they are even supposedly in his corner about what a horrible, bitchy, slut that I am. LOL! So why not, take the reins early and spend more time with your kid?
Keep in mind that the Boy has often pushed him away, but that's what kids do. As a parent, you put your foot down and make things happen. He'll be graduating high school sooner than later and go off to college. Once he's on his own, you can be damn sure that he won't be reaching out to his sperm donor.
The Boy loves his sperm donor, but won't go out of the way for him, like he will me. We even had this serious talk tonight about if there is an emergency, e.g., fire, earthquake, break in, etc. He literally said, "I'm not letting you go down without me. We're in this together." I thought that was pretty cool. He would let his dad perish though and wouldn't go down with him.
Ah well . .. I reap the benefits of a loving child. . . and I get the bullshit as well, but it's totally worth it. His sperm donor just doesn't know what he's missing.
Until next time, much peace and love . . . really.