Friday, January 10, 2014

Reflections on Life: Raising a Teenage Boy

Grrrrrrr . . . Need I say more?  Everyone has issues raising their teens, right?  I know there are some who would like to say their children are perfect, but believe you me, they are not.

I love my son.  He is my heart and soul.  But, there are times that I want to strangle him.  Keep in mind that I choose my battles.  If I tried to "correct" or monitor every single thing, we'd both go crazy.  So, I let him be a teen.  He gets to socialize as much as he wants, he doesn't have to keep his room clean (although there is a limit), he doesn't have to go places with me, etc.  In return, I expect good grades (not necessarily straight As, but he has to try), no drinking, drugs, smoking, or sex, being a good citizen, and treat others with respect.  Do you want to guess which of these become battlegrounds?  Let's just say all of them.

So, I bang my head on the wall, I talk to him over and over, and I try to instill good habits upon him.  Can I really do more than that?  Some would say yes, others agree with me, but ultimately, it will be up to him as to what kind of person he will be.  I throw a lot of advice and wishes at him, and pray constantly for him, and just hope it all sticks, and he becomes a fine, upstanding citizen.

Until next time, much love and peace.


  1. I am SOOO with you on this .I have four kids---three are grown adults now but the youngest--the 18 yr. old, is still at home and WOW is he the tough one! I am going through everything you mentioned here. It is a daily battle. We just have to continue to be strong and stand our ground. One day our boys WILL grow up and be appreciative of all we have done to help them, and that it really was in THEIR best interests!

    1. In the meantime, we drink . . . or at least I do. LOL!

      Thanks for stopping by, MM.