I love my son. He is my heart and soul. But, there are times that I want to strangle him. Keep in mind that I choose my battles. If I tried to "correct" or monitor every single thing, we'd both go crazy. So, I let him be a teen. He gets to socialize as much as he wants, he doesn't have to keep his room clean (although there is a limit), he doesn't have to go places with me, etc. In return, I expect good grades (not necessarily straight As, but he has to try), no drinking, drugs, smoking, or sex, being a good citizen, and treat others with respect. Do you want to guess which of these become battlegrounds? Let's just say all of them.
So, I bang my head on the wall, I talk to him over and over, and I try to instill good habits upon him. Can I really do more than that? Some would say yes, others agree with me, but ultimately, it will be up to him as to what kind of person he will be. I throw a lot of advice and wishes at him, and pray constantly for him, and just hope it all sticks, and he becomes a fine, upstanding citizen.
Until next time, much love and peace.